Wholeness is not just about success or checking off boxes—it’s about being spiritually, emotionally, and mentally aligned with God’s purpose for your life. But for many women, the journey to healing and wholeness is filled with unseen obstacles. These barriers keep you stuck in cycles of frustration, feeling unfulfilled, or wondering why you can’t break free.
If you’ve been struggling to move forward, it’s time to identify what’s holding you back. Here are 15 Barriers to Wholeness and how to overcome them.
1. Unresolved Past Wounds
Lingering pain from past trauma, rejection, or loss can block your healing. When you carry resentment or unforgiveness, it creates emotional and spiritual roadblocks. True freedom begins when you allow God to heal the broken places.
2. Fear of Vulnerability
Wholeness requires honesty—with yourself, others, and God. When you’re afraid to open up, you miss opportunities for deep healing.
3. Believing Lies Over Truth
Many women struggle with limiting beliefs: I’m not enough. I can’t change. God doesn’t love me. These lies keep you stuck in a defeated mindset.
4. Lack of Surrender
Trying to control every aspect of your life can prevent you from experiencing God’s best. Holding onto your own plans can delay His purpose.
5. Emotional Instability
Letting emotions dictate your actions can keep you in unhealthy patterns. Instead of processing feelings in a healthy way, many suppress, explode, or make impulsive decisions.
6. Lack of Spiritual Discipline
Neglecting prayer, scripture, and worship leads to spiritual dryness. Without these foundations, it’s easy to feel lost and disconnected from God.
7. Toxic Relationships
The wrong people can drain your energy, reinforce negative patterns, and pull you away from your purpose.
8. Unforgiveness
Holding onto bitterness—toward others, yourself, or even God—creates a hardened heart and prevents true freedom.
9. Avoidance or Denial
Some people stay busy or chase distractions to avoid dealing with deep-rooted pain.
10. Fear of Change
Stepping into the unknown can feel scary, but transformation requires change. Staying in comfort zones stifles growth.
11. Impatience with the Process
Healing takes time. When progress feels slow, it’s tempting to give up.
12. Misaligned Priorities
Focusing too much on external success while neglecting inner healing leads to emptiness.
13. Lack of Community or Support
Healing isn’t meant to be done alone. Isolation can make struggles feel heavier than they are.
14. Spiritual Warfare
The enemy wants to keep you in bondage through discouragement, distraction, and doubt.
15. Lack of Self-Worth
Feeling unworthy of healing, love, or purpose can make you settle for less than what God has for you.
Breaking Free & Walking in Wholeness
Wholeness isn’t just about overcoming obstacles—it’s about embracing the freedom, peace, and confidence that comes with healing. The journey may not be easy, but it is possible when you lean into God’s truth, trust the process, and commit to growth.
Which of these barriers resonates with you the most? Drop a comment below and let’s talk about it!
If you’re ready to break free from cycles of frustration and step into a life of fulfillment, purpose, and balance, check out my book Made Whole as I go into detail about some of the barriers I recognized with myself.
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